Awkwardness
There is no other way to describe last night.
There is a (very) young girl in my home group, and she normally is Extremely quiet. Recently though she has been snappish / cattish to the point of getting me actually angry (which is quite a feat).
This child sits next to me, and starts the conversation with 'I don't like you..in fact I hate you, you are just so..I dunno, you just Annoy me!'
To which my response was 'thats fine..if thats the way you feel, sit somewhere else'
Anyway this continued for the whole evening, until the very end of the evening when she did the whole 'Why don't you have a girlfriend thing..' (*silent screaming*)
Followed by the 'God told me you are meant to marry me..' (My response being, 'I'm sorry child, but he hasn't told me anything like that..') etc etc.
So all in all it was awkward.
The problem is not that whole situation though. The problem is that she told me sometime in the whole monologue that she was being raped by her foster father. Now thats something I can't just take lightly and keep to myself.
So I will need to raise the situation with our home group leader.
Knowing him he will take it up with the church, who will probably take it up with the family, and if there is any truth in it it will (I hope) come out.
Which will of course mean that this child's whole world could be completely destroyed, very fast.
And it has me so worried, cos I just don't know Which is the lesser evil??
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Hey SS, Shoshana here.
That is a delimma. I'm with you in I can't keep quiet too. But that is a very fragile thing...I am sure you are level headed enough to bring up the subject in a discreet way.
How old is the child? I remember thinking I was really in love with my dentist when I was 6. He's so cute. I think he's older than my grandpa, but what can I say, love is blind.
Also, he has lots of nice balloons. Who wouldn't love him?!
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Yeah this is a tough one, but you should say something, because it will be so detrimental to her in the long run if it is true and if nobody does anything. And while things may change substantially for her, she is already in turmoil (which the dramatic change in mood probably indicates) and it may actually help to stabilise her life. If it isn't true it will hopefully give her a better understanding of the situation, and the gravity of such accusations.
But it isn't all on you, you probably don't have the tools to deal with this, which is why it's important to talk to someone who might, like your group leader.
On the more positive side she's probably following you around annoying you and being annoyed by you because she sees you are being safe and protective. In a few years time she'll probably be absolutely mortified that she said that thing about marrying!
Oh... that is an awkward situation. But I agree with Aunty. Her issue should be highlighted, there might be some sort of other underlying problem no one knows.
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