Got this mail today:
THIS IS WELL WORTH READING READ TILL THE END, ESPECIALLY THE INDIAN
WOMEN.
White women's opinion of Indian women & an Indian brother's
response.
Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep! Thumbs up to this
Indian man.
Enjoy.
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by
A Caucasian woman who requested a response from Indian men. I'm so
glad she got what she asked for (and more)!!! She wrote:
Dear Jamie
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Indian male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Indian male-good-looking,educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Indian female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Indian women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too
needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly Approached by Indian men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Indian women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in
public. I would like to hear from some Indian men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles
Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams,
Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier,
Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Wesley Snipes...
I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is
Why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us, White women,Because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us And we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Indian men,
Let me know.
Thanx-Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA!!!!
RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White
Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Indian man. I
Graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta ,
Georgia With a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I
have a good job at A major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I Consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Indian men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Indian men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Indian men dated white women was
because they were considered easy. The Indian girls in my neighborhood were raised in strict homes. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Indian men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our
Indian women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many Indian men look for a more docile woman. Someone We can control.
I have talked to numerous Indian men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight.
I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Indian men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black/Indian
women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Indian women over white women.Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't Want a "Disgusted White girl" to be misinformed, Stop thinking that Because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Indian Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling
Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the Indian woman that taught you how to cook and season your
food.
It was the Indian woman that taught you how to raise your children.
It was Indian women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the Indian woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
INDIAN women were born with two strikes against them: being Indian and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the Indian women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty
that I could never date anyone except my Indian Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them.
It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Indian women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with Indian women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy And envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?
Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with
unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more
voluptuous?
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have What
the Indian woman has...
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can Walk
over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I
am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Indian Royalty
Wow!! Please pass this on to all the INDIAN QUEENS ....and INDIAN KINGS
Be proud of your women... ..... Appreciate their
greatness.......!!!!
I mean for crying out loud!! Im indian but I certainly hope I dont need the self justification of circulating this kind of email just to make myself feel special.
My response:
Interesting read, but a load of bull.
Indian women are no longer virtuous or any of those wonderful words we use to describe what an 'ideal' woman should be. University taught me that all women are the same, and some indian girls are definately worse than their white counterparts in this regard.
In general I think we need to realise that no matter our upbringing or supposed culture, people are the same. We react the same way, and when it comes to the points noted below there is definately No difference any longer between people of any race.
If anything if i wanted a woman I could control I would probably go for a 'good' indian girl. The social structure places far more emphasis on what a man says and tends to disregard a womans views / needs. Which is why we have this misconception of indian woman as being 'virtuous'. They arent virtuous they are just too scared to do Anything lest the society around them labels them cheap or easy..which is a label you could earn simply by smiling in the wrong guys direction in some cases.
These mails only promote the racial card, so as much as they are eloquent they have no value except to make us move a step backward each time. If you want to be proud of something thats fine, be proud you're female. Be proud that you have achieved equality with your male counterparts and that you can work, learn and interact with them on exactly the same level.
Be proud also that you are no longer looked down upon because of your skin colour. Be proud that the world as a whole is trying to move away from all of that and is trying to acknowledge that people of all races are in fact equal.
Be proud, but not because you feel you are 'superior' to anyone. Being proud for that reason will just be a self deception.
